Your marriage is a garden that must be tended. When ignored or left unattended, you will discover weeds have grown and stunted the growth of that which you have planted; you will also find the leaves of sprouts and more have been chewed, wilted/withered, fruit will be spoiled and/or non-existent because they have been eaten by pests or stolen by rodents/varmints. You will find that you will not want to be there because of the depressed look and lack of substance from the garden.
When your marriage is tended you will find plump ripe fruits and vegetables from which you may pluck and enjoy the fruits of your labor. Your garden will look beautiful and bountiful. You will even want to spend more time in it because of the results.
Please note that tending your garden requires work that only you can do, unlike botanical gardens--where you can hire someone to do it for you. Your work will mean that you get dirty sometimes in the process, but when you arise with aching back, dirty knees, sweat soaked face and shirt you will look down with great pride at the beautiful progress you have made! The first time you get down there to weed it out and set the order that you would like will require the most work, but after that is done all you will have to do is simply maintain on a regular basis, which will require less work when done consistently.
What kind of marital garden are you after? How do you tend your garden?
Here are few resources that can be used to tend your marital garden.
Until Next Time,
Jacqueline Oduselu, MS, NCC, LPC